New Year’s resolutions: Why they fail and what you can do about it!


It is the first month of the year, the best time for us to be looking at New Year’s resolutions. They say it only takes until about the middle of January for New Year’s resolutions to become a thing of the past. A closer look at the ten most commonly broken New Year’s resolutions returned the following list:

·         Lose Weight and Get Fit

·         Quit Smoking

·         Learn Something New

·         Eat Healthier and Diet

·         Get Out of Debt and Save Money

·         Spend More Time with Family & friends

·         Travel to New Places

·         Be Less Stressed

·         Volunteer

·         Enjoy life more

The beginning of a new year gives us a sense of renewal, the chance for a clean slate and a fresh start. It gives us hope for brighter tomorrows and allows us to look at our life and the opportunity of doing something different with brand new eyes. Our optimism is overwhelming and we start making promises to ourselves that we often cannot keep. It turns into a classical case of over-promising, under-delivering and the feelings of guilt that are an all too familiar part of the process.

All of these sound like great resolutions but why is it so hard for us to stick to them? Resolutions are goals with great intentions. The issue with goals, however, is that they look great on the outside, and they make us feel good about ourselves, but they are short-lived. It is like standing at the start line of a 40 km marathon and truly believing that you will win it without putting in all the hard work and actually training for it.

Of course, when you set your New Year’s resolutions you always have the best intentions. Believing that your intentions are enough to make you follow through on your promises is an illusion. Unless your New Year’s resolutions have a clear plan to back them up they will soon be forgotten.

In order to make this process a little bit easier for you dear reader, I am sharing with you my 15 tips on creating New Year’s resolutions closer to your heart which you are more likely to stick to:

1.       Get to know yourself better: Understand your values, your passion, your dreams, and your aspirations & ambitions. This requires that you stop, look back at your journey, take stock and think about those goals that will speak to your deepest desires. If you cannot do this on your own, hire a professional coach to help you.

2.       Resolutions should be a reflection of who you are: Do not set a resolution because it will make you look good or because someone else thinks it is a good idea

3.       Connect your resolution to something that has deep meaning for you: unless your motivation is rooted into something meaningful and deep, something you are passionate about, it will most likely be short-lived

4.       Goals are a journey not only a destination: Make sure you have a process in place that allows you to follow through on these goals by having clearly defined action steps that will take you there

5.       Take baby steps not giant leaps: Action steps should be achievable and measurable with clear milestones that can guide you to your destination and keep moving you forward

6.       Make sure you celebrate your wins along the way: Every time you reach a milestone take some time out to celebrate it. This will give you the encouragement to keep going

7.       Put yourself first: Say NO to temptations and to the negative self-talk. Temptations will always be there to make you stray-away from your path and that little voice in your head will be making every effort to sabotage your journey. When your action-steps are rooted in passion and values, you stand in a powerful place.

8.       Do not give yourself excuses: Of course you can be lenient and flexible with yourself but you can do that by giving yourself the choice and allowing yourself to take a break if you need it. This must be a conscious effort where there is no room for excuses. Excuses are just a decent way of admitting failure.

9.       You need to be in control of your own process from beginning to end: All steps on this journey should be started and controlled only by you.

10.   Create accountability: Share your process with a friend or a coach and make sure they hold you accountable every step of the way. When you are the only one who knows about your plan it will be easier to cheat your way out of it.

11.   Any day of the year is a good day to set goals and make them happen: January 1st has a way of putting pressure on you because this seems to be the starting point for most people on the planet. Your starting point can be any day you choose.

12.   Have fun doing it: Enjoy the journey so that the destination can be a triumph on many different levels

13.   Stop and re-assess: Allow yourself to stop and take stock along the way. If things are not working out for you it is ok. This does not mean you failed.

14.   You can re-direct any time you choose: give yourself the freedom to change the goal if it seems too ambitious. Reaching a smaller milestone is always better than giving up

15.   Whatever the outcome is just be sure to be proud of your efforts and celebrate your successes, even the smallest ones.

My wish for you is that 2015 becomes the milestone year where you made your new year’s resolution a reality!






About Rawan Albina

Rawan Albina is a successful self-made Executive and Leadership Coach who has coached more than 150 individuals from 60 different nationalities all over the Middle East; from middle management to chief executives. She is one of the eleven Professional Certified Coaches (PCC) in the Middle East today.

She served for 10 years as a manager and leader with multinationals Tetra Pak and Nestlé. She is passionate about Personal Branding as it perfectly combines her marketing background and coaching expertise.

Rawan had her career breakthrough as a coach, trainer and motivational speaker delivering diverse programs to market leaders in the MENA region in English, Arabic and French. She also mentors MBA students and is a registered mentor coach with the ICF.

Rawan holds a Bachelor’s degree in Business and Economics and is a graduate of the prestigious Coaches Training Institute. Rawan is certified in the FIRO and WPB5 assessment tools. She is a proud member of the International Coach Federation (ICF) and the European Mentoring and Coaching Council (EMCC).


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